You don’t have to be a product of where you’re from.
I was raised in a rough area of Greensboro – Southside, to be exact.
My pops decided when he wanted to appear and disappear to be a father figure.
But I grew wiser, although the man in my life was a big drug dealer.
I accepted both of their mistakes because both men showed me someone I didn’t want to be.
I’ve probably seen more black males on a block than in my college classes.But I chose to walk a different path.
Looking at the troubles in your past will steer one off the road ahead, but accepting errors allows one to live pure and true.
As long as you take something good from the challenges, you’ll be all right.
I wanted to reach beyond my greatest expectations.
Be a black man a part of a dominant legacy, or lead other black men into their own path of success.
Be the sophisticated woman who carries herself with dignity.
You think it’s easier said than done, so what’s holding you back?
We’re so afraid to be different!
We’re afraid to stand out!
We’re afraid to speak up!
But you aren’t damn sure afraid to say roll up or match me.
We tend to hold onto our past, fail to accept challenges & mistakes, and support each other.
Everything happens for a reason.
And unfortunately some challenges are out of one’s control.
For example, I had a friend who saw her family’s lives ruined because of greed and dishonesty, leading her brother to be killed before her eyes.
But she challenged herself to continue to instill loyalty into her own kids.
We can’t change things that happen, we can only stay fit to survive through next round of life’s up’s and down’s.
Today’s she stronger than the day she wiped her last tears.
The challenge brought her peace, molding her into who she’s truly meant to be.
We aren’t perfect individuals, so everyone is liable to make a mistake.
Let’s not make excuses for accepting mistakes.
For instance, if either a black boy grows up fatherless, it doesn’t mean become a part of stereotype: selling drugs, degrading women, and sagging his pants.
Or if a black girl grows up without a father, it doesn’t mean she’s unsure how to love a man or understand her worth.
At N.C Central students are driven for success.
Most students are diligently working to establish their names to assure their future is bright as the moon that everyone wants to float on.
I’m all about being self-made, not being made by any organization but contributing to the growth of the organization, starting from the bottom and rising through accomplishments and conquering the unexpected.
But as a Historical Black University College we have abandoned the communities.
We have forgotten about the people who are educating themselves through life challenges.
Of course, everyone must focus on oneself to engrave their path of success, but we have to support each other instead of stepping on each other.
For example, on the recent canceled reality series, “Sorority Sisters,” two envious black women bickered about their business being better than one.
The two ladies stuck up their nose at another and one another, walking with their head above the grey clouds.
Obviously, the ladies didn’t notice they were entrepreneurs.
Instead of being each other’s support system, they were competitors.
The actions of these two black women did nothing more but to encourage young black girls to down each other.
Today our generation watches the mockery reality shows rather than listening to an elder black woman’s words of guidance.
Neediness to say our youth are misled!
Little girls aren’t playing with either Cabbage Patch dolls or Easy Bake ovens.
They’re becoming pregnant at early ages as if it’s ok. Little boys aren’t just playing with toy guns anymore, they’re packing real steel.
If you all haven’t realized that the younger generations are suffering due to the lack of guidance and assurance, maybe you’re misled as well.
To retain discipline and structure in our youth, we have to be supportive and set firm examples.
Every other nationality seems to stick together instead of fighting each other for success.
Let’s build a human ladder, helping each other reach to the top.
We cannot live forever. But we can be forever remembered.